Quotes To Consider this Week


1. “What we remember is probably fiction anyways.” – Beryl Bainbridge

2. “It was not the feeling of completeness I so needed, but the feeling of not being empty.” – Jonathen Safran Foer

3. ” Sure you have a couple of scars, and a couple of bad memories, but then again, all great heros do.”- Ltn

4. ” Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger then whatever tried to hurt you.” – Unknown

5. “Everyone has a chapter, they don’t read outloud.” – WordPorn

6. “Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently then you.” – Unknown

7. ” Some doors are meant to be closed, and when you try to re-open them, you remember why they were closed in the first place.” – Life Quotes

8. “I’m a writer. If I’m staring at you, I’m not being rude. I’m trying to decide if you need to go into a book. If you’re a snot, I maybe deciding on how to kill you.” – Someecards

9. ” What Christian’s call answered prayer, skeptics call coincidence. Whatever it’s called, the more Christian’s pray, the more it happens.” – Ranal Currie

10. ” The only things you can take with you when you leave this world, are the things you’ve packed inside your heart.” – Susan Gale

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It’s Okay to be an Introvert 


 

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In second year University, I caught the eye of a certain basketball player. He was in an English class with me. He was tall, loud, and had the most beautiful blue eyes. I thought he’d be fun to be with. But it was difficult for me to talk to him. He caused me to feel anxious. I knew I had to only become used to his loudness to be comfortable around him, but I never felt relaxed. He didn’t attempt to get to know me better, to make me feel comfortable around him, despite my shyness.

At first, I was so shy I would ignore him, unless I absolutely ran right into him. I only felt this knot in my stomach and I stuttered when I talked to him. I was extremely frustrated with the entire situation by third year university. I finally told the basketball player I liked him. I told him truthfully, I often didn’t talk to him because I was busy taking five courses and working half-time. I tried to get across to him that when I was busy, I was off in my own world. I was attempting to get him to make an effort and ask me out.

I received a funny look from the basketball player for saying ‘I was in my own world,’ even though he rubbed my back to make me feel better. That was the end. I wasn’t a fun girl to him because I wasn’t outgoing and he didn’t understand how busy my life was.

During the years I had this ‘thing’ with the basketball player, I grew used to other girls I didn’t know talking behind my back, calling me names, and being critical of me. I went to a small university and it often felt like high school because young woman became easily jealous over the smaller guy population.

It took me years to get over the preconceived notion that I was shy — a wrong attribute to have. I learned a guy maybe hot and seem fun, but if he didn’t make the effort for you, you shouldn’t waste your time on him. Sometimes I would build a guy I liked up in my mind, as if they were perfect and not a flawed person. I would have been more comfortable being me if I realized I shouldn’t have to try so hard to please a man I liked. Even someone you are attracted to, and makes you nervous, is approachable if you remember they are only human like you.

Also, I learned when I started working, because a person makes you nervous is no reason to ignore them if they haven’t given you a decent reason to avoid them. The exception to this was catty and gossipy women. I learned some woman are going to be touchy even as adults when they should know better than to spread gossip or call names. These women are people whose mean words you should ignore. Better yet, ask them to repeat what they said so you can hear it clearly this time. Embarrass them.

Most significantly, I learned I was not a shy person but a woman who was often an introvert. It didn’t mean I wasn’t social and fun to be with. But I required time alone to ‘recharge my batteries’ while others ‘recharged their batteries’ off the energy of a crowd.  I liked small groups better than large noisy functions. I felt and still feel a few trustworthy friends is all a girl needs, even though it is fun to meet new people. I also enjoy working independently, or one on one with people. I am extremely talkative in this kind of situation and I feel a more meaningful connections with others in small group settings.

In my opinion, we have a society which is often centred around extroversion. It’s not an acceptable value because it causes people who identify with introversion to feel that if we are shy and not outgoing, there is something wrong with us. There is nothing about a person that is deficient because they are introverted. Certain people are skilled at hiding their insecurities and may appear outgoing but at heart, they are introverts. Some introverts such as myself are more clearly introverted.

I don’t identify with being a shy girl anymore. I’m a listener, a loyal friend, and an observer. I have no problem stating my opinion or saying no. I am happy to be me in the ‘background’ and not taking center stage. This doesn’t mean I never get noticed. It means the right people notice me and take me as I am. I want to be around people who see introversion as a vital part of society, not a hindrance.

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One Piece of Advice for New Bloggers – Network


 Prompt: Give your one best piece of advice to new bloggers in the blogging world.

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Blogging, such as anything you are learning that is new, is a process. Each time you write, each comment made on your blog, and each comment you make on another person’s blog, will build your strength as a writer and blogger. My best piece of advice for a new blogger is about the same advice you receive upon entering a first job or a new job: network, network, network! 

Make the effort to respond and get to know the people who are commenting on your posts. If you are followed by a person and you look at their blog and like it’s contents too, follow the person back. Read random blogs on WordPress to start finding other blogs which interest you and receive your favourite blogs sent to your email. Comment on and like the blogs you follow. Maybe you don’t have time to do this for every blogger you receive a blog from, but do it at least every few posts a blogger you like makes.The more blogs you can read, like, or comment on, the more people you can meet through blogging. Check-out blogs, bloggers you know, mention in their post. Look for bloggers who have commented a lot on blog posts you already enjoy reading. Reblog blogs that really touch your heart and/or you find meaningful. Remember to give constructive feedback when commenting.

Participating in writing challenges such as Flash fiction, six word stories, poetry challenges and WordPress courses, is also a fun way to meet people. Flash fiction for example, is a fantastic way to see how various people create a different story from the same words/picture. It is also an excellent way to learn how to write a story only using necessary words. Every word and sentence has to count when you only have two-hundred words to tell a story in. 

WordPress courses in writing, photography, and blogging are excellent in helping you improve the readership of your blog but also to make your blog appear more professional, and improve your writing skills. All WordPress courses are linked to a place all students in the course can go and share and read their own and other people’s work. It is a great way to meet people through these courses. More experienced bloggers/writers often have many pearls of wisdom to share. Best of Luck! 

Sunday Photo Fiction: Fans and Hands 


I was sitting drinking cold tea from Starbucks, when you breezed past me. You were confident, hot, and you had these wonderful long fingered hands.

Some women think hands are a weird turn on but there is in my experience a dash of creativity and independent thinking in a man with long fingers. I like the feel of those hands as a guy holds my smaller hand.  I like it when he tangles his hands in my hair as he kisses me.

But look at me, I am dressed in comfy sweat pants and a long sleeve running shirt. I have my ugly Uggs on. There is little make up on my face.

 I had ran out the door earlier in the morning when my roommate had broken my favourite vase. Although, it was only a cheap touristy vase it had been a gift from my Dad in his travels in China so I treasured it. 

But an unexpected event occurred as I drank my cold tea. As I was eating my last bites of honey Greek yogurt and granola you sat down in front of me. 

” Hi I’m Dustin” you said ” Is it okay if I sit with you?”

“Oh, Um, sure that would be great” I managed to reply. 

” So, you’re  Clair Williams. I have read some of your books, they’re really good.”

” Oh how do you know I write books? Who told you who I am?” I felt defensive suddenly. 

” Just I heard you talking to the Barista guy a few times here about your books. So, I bought and read a couple of your books on my iPad. Your stories are interesting. Thoughtful but at the same time lots happens and they are not too girly.”

” Well thanks” I say ” I’m glad you like them. Not all of them are like that some are for teenagers and some are romance. But thanks for reading the books you did. I can get you signed copies if you like? Anyways, what do you do?”

” Oh, I’m a CA (Chartered Accountant.) I have my own company. It’s precise work but I’m good at it. Say, would like to see a hockey game with me tonight the Winnipeg Jets are playing the Edmonton Oilers. There pretty good seats, behind the benches.”

I shriek and Dustin smiles. He laughs. ” I’ll take that as a yes, Clair .” We exchange phone numbers. He’ll pick me up at 6:30 pm. And I have to remember to bring him signed copies of my latest series of novels. 

I’m ready when he comes I have my favourite Christmas present on, my McDavid Oiler’s Jersey. He is supposed to be playing again tonight after being out injured. I couldn’t help but think this would be a beautiful beginning for Dustin and I. Maybe our luck would help Edmonton win. 

  
Thanks to Alastair Forbes for hosting and for the prompt picture. Happy New Year! 

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©Mandibelle16. All Rights Reserved. 

Writing 101: Day 19 – A Bevy of Bloggers.


Prompt: Feature a guest or bloggers you enjoy. 

Each time I write a blog, you are able to hear about my life and read my writing  on a variety of topics. I write about beauty, fashion, poetry, books I have read, movies I’ve seen, about health, about dealing with illness, what I am doing currently, about my relationships, courses, writing prompts, and memories. 

But a vital part of being a blogger is reading and commenting on other bloggers. It’s about following other people on their blogging journies and helping other people who share a love of writing on a variety of topics. So, here are some of the blogs I’ve been reading lately. 

1. Rantings of a Third Kind by Gun Roswell who writes that her blog is: 

A blog about everything and nothing. Fiction, fact, poetry, odes, homages, photography. Humour, yet some serious thoughts. And it’s all done in the best possible taste!

I love all the beautiful pictures Gun takes.

2. Randoms by a Random by Ameena who writes that her blog is “[b]logging away with random thoughts in form of poetry, stories and more…” Ameena is a talented writer whose poetry I thoroughly enjoy as well as her Mental Health Fridays.

3. Sound Bite Fiction a blog from a writer who is extremely talented at writing stories that give you the chills. He often writes dark stories with a twist. 

4.A Reading Writer a blog by Rosema who is an avid reader as well as a talented writer. If you would like a good book to read Rosema is the girl to ask!

5.All About Being Human is a fascinating blog often with thoughtful commentary about current issues. This bloggers latest post concerns racism and how people need to get over this hurdle.

6.Passion Through Poetry is a blog written by Vonita who shares moments of her life in prose and in beautiful poetry. 

7. My Words, My Life a talented blogger named Madeeha who writes fiction and non fiction and is great at describing a story creatively. “Words have power, express yourself,” is this bloggers mantra.

8. Nuggets of Gold is a blog by joyroses13 who recently has been writing stories from friends who provided three separate word prompts that need to be included in one story. Her stories are creative and thoughtful. I also love her inspiring quotes she shares each week. Joyroses13 also has some fantastic pictures from travelling. Her blog moto is ” [h]elping you to find the gold nuggets amidst the dirt, sand, and pebbles of life.” She is a lovely person. 

9.Living Disrobed is a fantastic beauty blog on “all things beauty. Makeup, fashion, nails, beauty tips, tutorials and giveaways.” Her latest blog I read had to do with some soft makeup brushes by Luxie.

10.  Beautiful Words blog by Priceless Joy is a blog that “inspires mental health through creative arts and friendly interactions.” PJ is also the host for Flash Fiction for Aspiring writers, so if you would like to write about a picture prompt every Tuesday, check out her blog. PJ is amazing and comments and reads on everybody’s blog. 

There are so many other blogs that I wasn’t able to share with you today. I randomly picked ten that came up on my iPhone a lot. Perhaps, in a future post, I can share some more exciting blogs with you.

Life and Things


I’ve been keeping myself busy lately catching up on all the books I’ve downloaded hoping to read when I’m not busy. I wanted to tell you about one author I particularly like lately named Sykla Madi. She is an excellent writer and I especially like her books based on mixed martial arts fighting. She has an excellent series called the Consumed series: Consumed, Too Consumed, and Forever Consumed. It’s a series with romance with some fun fighting  and competition in it. Her most recent series are novellas: Broken, Twisted, and Damaged. That series isn’t finished so I am anxiously waiting for the next novella in the series. 

In the Broken series, Emily, a nurse follows home Jia, a man she doesn’t know who broke her tablet accidentally on the train home. Emily is poor and doesn’t have the money to fix her tablet. She ends up in an underground caged fighting competition with Jia where everyone fights, often to the death, to win money and work for a dangerous mobster. Jia protects Emily, while using her to locate his brother who supposedly was working for the mobster. A relationship develops between Emily and Jia who must work together to survive and free themselves from the hellish world of the mobster and underground fighting.

  

So, while I wait for Jia and Emily’s story to continue I have been trying to arrange to take the last course I will need for a Residential Design Certificate. I’m all registered but the complicated part is that the prof doesn’t think I can do well without having the lectures taped for me. So, since I am a disabilities student I can apply for money that might pay for the course and textbook and money for things like a tape recorder. You apply through student loans and it’s a ridiculous process. First, I needed to wait and get my Alberta Student number. Now, I need to wait one to two weeks to get a pin to access my diploma marks from high school. I mean I have a university degree, shouldn’t they want those marks? Then, both for the U of A and for applying for grant money I need to have my doctor write a letter and fill a form out for me. Once that is done, I can finally complete the application online to the Alberta government and the disabilities application to the U of A. And all this needs to happen before the course starts mid- September! 

I haven’t decided on what I will do with myself after this course. I feel a strong pull towards Creative Writing and would really like to start a Masters in Fine Arts at the UBC. I could only do a course at a time but I think I can do it. My other direction of thoughts goes to the U of A and a certificate in drawing. I’m actually a pretty good artist and I would love to get that certificate. But I might love writing just a bit more.

Being single again isn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I guess I wasn’t as in love as I thought because even though many activities remind me of A, I have no desire to go back to the way things was. I have some freedom back and I like that. It’s more time to spend with family and friends. As for dating, I just think it’s a little fast yet to go there. I just don’t want to waste time with guys I know there’s no connection with or just want sex. I guess a lot of girls are just good to sleep with whoever but I’d like to get to know the person so I can trust them before I give that out. It makes me old fashioned but I think someone who is interested in you for your whole package is better then some guy who is just thinking about sex. 

Going to the salon tomorrow, coffee Thursday, and out for lunch Friday. The rest of the time I’ll be reading and waiting for that letter from the Alberta government. Also, thinking about getting a new iPad. My old one is 16GB and full. I need something with more memory. Take care all! 

Becoming a Writer, How Frustrating! My Plan:


I am hopeful person it would seem. At 27 years old I have decided that writing will be my career. All jokes about writers as starving artists aside, I have decided to go about my career plan in 2 ways. The first way is through education. Creative writing courses and specifically a more general masters then a Journalism masters. I want ( as I have said in past articles) to do a Creative Writing Masters in non-fiction but also I would like to learn more about fiction and poetry as I believe those are important ways people express theirselves in writing. This degree would give me experience and refine my writing, editing, and proof reading schools. I have two years in which I have given myself to apply for this program in case I am rejected the first time around as the Masters I want is difficult to get into. Another thing this program would give me is connections to publishing and learning about how to get your work published, or how to apply to do certain work.

The second part of my plan is a combination of writing my own blog, writing for Flurt magazine, and trying to do some writing for different individuals and companies through websites such as text broker and Guru. So far, I have not had luck with these sites, it is hard to gain experience when everyone wants someone who is experienced at writing, editing, or proof reading. To some degree I very much am but I do not have experience in finance, religious tracts, or web design. This has made things a bit difficult as they seem to be popular topics. I have experience in a lot of other areas but applying and getting your proposal accepted is difficult. I want to scream let me show you, I can do it!

At Flurt I am just looking for experience in writing articles on a variety of topics. I am getting that experience but I would like to refine my writing more and gain more experience editing. I use my experience at Flurt to apply for other writing jobs and I would really love to write for more magazines or papers. I am not always sure how to go about this. I have pitched some ideas to some publications but I guess they are not good enough ideas.

Really writing free lance is a process I have just begun. But I feel that getting my Masters and getting more published articles is tied up in my future. Free lance writing gives me a chance to have a career, as someone who can only work 4 hrs a day at home, and backing up my writing will be my MFA. Also, I am very interested in one day teaching creative writing and/ or English Literature type classes and this might mean going for a PHd in some writing discipline. I am very interested in teaching courses online, as I believe that will be a rising trend in education.

So those are my career plans realistic or not. Dreams? Based on a lot of maybe’s? Most definitely. But I have always known God has gifted me with writing for some purpose and hopefully he will reveal that purpose or those purposes as life moves forward. Things will be revealed in time and you never know how one thing can lead to another thing; there is a connection a reason for the events in our lives and for this I have always been grateful.

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