A Weighty Issue


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I have thought a great deal about weight lately and not only because of the reasons I explained in my last blog. It occurs to me what an weird issue weight plays in our lives. Back in the Victorian days and even before that, weight represented wealth and health in people. Weight meant you had delicious food on your table, that you were more likely to live through childbirth if you were a woman, and that you were rich. How funny that sometime in the early to mid 20th century Coco Chanel should come along and bring with her a woman’s desire to be skinny and tanned ( for white skin was in before that too). This desire continues into the modern-day although we as a society have begun to fight the love of skinny. For how many of us can actually be so statuesque and thin, for more than possibly our youth and young adulthood?

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At the same time, I was always told by my mother and many women that men love curves and that is what they seek in a woman but I think that all depends on the man. I think every man has his ideal woman and the woman who becomes his partner may have those assets or she may look nothing like he thought his ideal mate would look. But while her man may consider her ‘his girl’ and just fantastic the way her body is, all woman tend to be sensitive about their weight at some time or another, even celebrities. Some women think they are too skinny, others think they are not skinny enough, yet others are unhappy about a particular body part such as their stomach, thighs, or arms.

And after thinking about all these ideas I concluded that it was wrong for me to say in my last post that it was a sham to believe that woman should ‘love their bodies’ despite that like me, they may not feel confident about their bodies at times. I think that last post written out of frustration forgot about posts I wrote earlier such as “Love The Skin You’re In” blog.  The reality of life is that people both men and woman, are always going to have physical attributes about themselves that they don’t particularly like, whether they are models or you average woman looking after kids or going to work everyday. But this doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t

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love ourselves anyways. I think it is the fact that we don’t like ourselves some or a lot of the time that leads us to have issues with other people and ourselves such as jealousy, depression, and anxiety. If we took the attitude that ‘this is my body and I’m going to love it anyways no matter what it looks like,’ a lot of us would have more confidence, feel more attractive, and be more attractive to other people because confidence is sexy. Loving yourself is not so much even about whats on the outside of your body but it does concern loving the outside of your body because you are extremely satisfied with yourself on the inside.

Being fat doesn’t make you a bad person and I think sometimes the media — movies, magazines, the internet — lead us to think that if we don’t look a certain way then we are a reprehensible person. But if you think about it in life, some of the people we love the most are our Uncles who are too fat, are Grandma’s who were nice and plump, are Dads who are losing hair, and our friends who have a big nose or large mouth. I even read the other day that ugly people are actually more memorable to us than attractive people. And not that these meaningful people to us are ugly. Instead because they are not perfect they are memorable and to us as children and adults who love them they are perfect in their imperfection. So how then can we consider ourselves unlovable or unimportant because we are not the ideal attractive person?

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I have always sought to be a healthy person, especially after being considered chubby as a little kid. This was not because my parents fed me junk food but because kids on my Dad’s side of the family, tended to be chubby. So ever since that point I have tried to maintain a healthiness, though that has recently become difficult in the past few years. I was okay I think until I got past 25 years old and became more than 175 lbs. So, regretfully I settled at 191 lbs and then gratefully back to 181 lbs and now again back to 191 lbs. It is the fact that I am taking all these pills and that they cause weight gain, that I am unable to exercise due to illness, and that dieting is so tough, that I feel unhealthy. I can see it on my body that I am not at a healthy body weight  but that does not mean I should not love that body and love myself even though I know changes need to be made in my lifestyle.

So instead of being helpless and feeling helpless, I think there are things we can do about our body issues to make life more tolerable

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for us no matter the walls that block us from our goals. We can always try to eat more vegetables, to give up more junk food, and to walk around the block a couple of times or for 15 minutes. We can eat in moderation, and wear clothes that flatter our bodies, and we can remember that the people who love us do not love us for our outward appearance alone but mostly for our insides, for the way we treat them, and for our characters. We can alter ourselves for the better if we love ourselves and know that a few changes will make us healthier. But again, we need to remember that in health does not happiness lie alone.

Sometimes it is easier to see ourselves through the eyes of our loved ones. What really causes me to feel better about my weight is my boyfriend. I may tell him I put on a few pounds but he loves me anyways. He is still enamored of me, he still thinks I’m beautiful. And even though some woman in the car next to us may

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stare at him or he may smile back at some girl who is giving him big eyes, he is always looking at me and asking if I’m okay. His eyes are on me and through him I have learnt to love myself because he is pleased with my hips, my stomach, my mind, and my heart. Sometimes it takes seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes to truly see yourself and that you are valuable just because you are you.

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Carrie Dairies Episodes 5 and 6, Israel Immigrants Forced Birth Control


Hello everyone! Here are this last weeks posted Flurt articles. As ever, I am grateful for your readership. Happy Wednesday!

Carrie Dairies Episode 5

http://www.flurtsite.com/2013/02/the-carrie-diaries-episode-5/

Carrie Diaries Episode 6

http://www.flurtsite.com/2013/02/the-carrie-diaries-episode-6/

Israel Immigrants Forced Birth Control

http://www.flurtsite.com/2013/02/immigrant-women-in-israel-forced-birth-control/

Vanity, Vanity…a Bikini Wax?


Like many girls I like to take care of myself. I love wearing makeup, trying different face creams, and eye shadows. I like to look good for myself and for others. Is this vanity? To some degree, but mostly I just enjoy my beauty routine and I think it is a necessary part of life. It is important to look good because people judge you on how you look for things such as jobs, social events, and even going to school. Beauty rituals and taking care of yourself can even make you have better self esteem.

Now people have all different kinds of beliefs when they are taking care of themselves. Some questions one may ask about beauty is how much is too much time to put into how you look? How much time is not enough? How much is just the right amount of time for your schedule and life? Some people wish they could take less time taking care of themselves and some people wish they could take more. There are also fortunate and unfortunate parts about a beauty routines. It is fun to try different make up and hairstyles but it is not so fun when it comes to hair removal and skin issues.

I guess what bothers me about beauty is when you start to judge others on why they would get different beauty products or procedures. Since taking care of yourself often makes a person feel better, I especially do not care for these judgment calls because they effect women’s self-esteem. What is important to you may not be important to other people, but you may have a perfectly valid reason for a certain way you take care of your own body. You may feel that somethings are worth your money to spend on beauty and not on others.

For instance, I have a friend who does not ‘get’ bikini waxing in any shape or form; she just thinks it’s vanity. That is her own opinion on taking care ‘down there’ and lets just say I do not agree. It is something I have been doing since high school and believe it’s not only important to making you feel good even though nobody can see it when you are walking around, but also just important because your boyfriend or husband likes it, or maybe because you just feel better, cleaner for instance with a bikini wax. But I think it is up to women in general to decide how they feel about bikini waxing and other beauty procedures and if they want to get them done. In this day and age some ‘grooming’ down there is expected but to what to degree, that depends on you and who you are with – and not just your boyfriend or husband. For instance, for wearing many swim suites you have to do at least a little waxing or shaving, Please have the courtesy to do that! But I guess what I am getting to today is: I was mad at this friend after getting my first Brazilian bikini wax and her judging me – calling me vain because of it.

It was extremely painful and I do not know that I would do it again. But the point being is it was my choice and not for my friend to judge especially since she would never get one. She was calling me judgemental for saying it was something girls do now-a-days (most I know do) and rebuking me for getting one just like those girls. It really is just the norm now these days, nothing special. Wax or shave do whatever you want but the point is take care of yourself, however – it is your choice. Just as it my choice get a bikini wax it is my friend’s choice not to get one.

But this got me to thinking, how times change, and that how we take care of ourselves differs from how people took care of themselves in the 1920’s, 1970’s etc. It’s true, beauty rituals change but I think there needs to be understanding across generations what beauty rituals people do in whatever age that they do them, and it is always a women’s choice. It is no more vain to get a bikini wax then it is to shave, then it is to use depilatory creams, or get laser treatments on that area. It is no more vain then cutting and dying the hair on your head. Like it or not some vanity is part of our society, and I think it’s a good attribute in this case, not a bad attribute.

We do not need to look perfect but we do need to love ourselves and others enough to take care of our bodies. Plus, it is not 1890, please believe me – beauty rituals are not the same and because they have changed does not make them anymore vain then any beauty ritual was in anytime throughout history.

Beauty is something I love about being a girl, I am partial to it. So I hope you do not judge anybody in there beauty rituals bad or good, and if you feel that you have to comment about it; be nice about it. You have no right to call someone vain, you do not live in their life, and you do not feel how they feel, you have not taken ‘ a walk in their heels.’ Beauty is more than skin deep, its emotional, and psychological; it is a powerful thing that does not effect us or others just physically or visually.

A Body Builder in A Makeup Add and Women Are Still Making Less Money then Men


Here are my most recent Flurt articles. As I said, in my previous blog, the rough drafts were a bit sloppy but my editor has fixed them up nicely. Enjoy reading!

A Body Builder in a Makeup Ad

http://www.flurtsite.com/2013/01/a-body-builder-in-a-makeup-ad/

The Gender Gap

http://www.flurtsite.com/2013/01/the-gender-gap-yes-women-are-still-making-less-than-men/

How Much is Your Virginity Worth and Being on Long Term Disability.


Well I have another set of articles from FLURT which I hope you will all enjoy. Today’s articles are about a 20 year old woman who sells her virginity to the highest bidder and the effect this has on women – even though she is using the money to build house to people who don’t have homes. The second article, is a rather personal one, my experience of being on Long Term Disability.

How Much Is Your Virginity Worth?

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/12/how-much-is-your-virginity-worth/

Living off Long Term Disability Insurance

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/12/living-off-long-term-disability-insurance/

Thanks,

Amanda

Just To Make a Few Things Clear with Feminism


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On http://www.dictionary.comfeminism” is defined as ” the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to men.” Given this definition I am in complete agreement. Women should and do have the right to vote democratically for a leader, to hold public office (we do have a female Premier, Alison Redford), to work and go to school for whatever subject or vocational area they want, to have kids if they want; to be a person unto themselves with all rights and privileges equal to any man. To further this definition I look to Wikipedia who describes “feminist theory” as that:

which emerged from these feminist movements, aims to understand the nature of gender inequality by examining women’s social roles and lived experience; it has developed theories in a variety of disciplines in order to respond to issues such as the social construction of sex and gender.

But if I am really truthful with you there are some things we often hear associated with feminism and the like, that I do not agree with, or do not agree with completely; and there are things I like about my femininity (” a set of attributes. behaviors, and roles generally associated with girls and women such as “gentleness, empathy, and sensitivity” ( Wikipedia)). Many women would argue that “biologically” we are pretty equal to men but I just do not believe we are created that way. I am thinking of perhaps,why women can multitask and most men can only concentrate on one thing at a time.  Or why men compartmentalize things and women think of problems and life in general as everything being connected to something else; or that most women are not fire fighters or wrestler’s because it takes a woman of special strong, big-boned, and athletic build to be one. I mean, most women do not have the upper body strength that men do, it’s just that we are physically different. Some woman can do this, but most cannot.

I think woman have the right to try to be equal and do whatever a man can do, but why do we want to give up our femininity to do so? I like shopping, and playing with makeup, I am a girly girl. I like pink and I like snuggling up next to my boyfriend. I do not want to be as insensitive to others, as some men are; or not wear makeup like most men do not. And I think that woman have a unique view on the world, just as unique as men – but we need both viewpoints to balance each other out. And I do not want to be one of those crazy women who swears off men because she thinks men are all are in the way of  a woman’s potential.  Maybe these are extreme versions, but I like it when men act like men on dates. When they pay for the bill, pull out my chair, and pick me up. I like that my boyfriend gives me a little ‘swat’ on the ass, even though it maybe a guy thing to do, but he is just teasing!

Lets have our “feminism” but not at the expense of  making woman ashamed to stay at home with kids, or not be a CEO – just a secretary; we can do things that men do but do them our way. We do not have to act like men to be equal to them, we should be ourselves whoever we are and value that although we may want all the rights and freedoms men have (and should have) it is still okay to be just a girl – liking girly things, and not being able to throw like a boy. I am okay being a little traditional, but sometimes I feel feminism is not? So are you a feminist or are you like me, just happy to be your  girly-girl self in the world?

Taylor Swift: A RedReview and Good Times Punch


English: Taylor Swift at the 2010 Time 100.
English: Taylor Swift at the 2010 Time 100. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Good Morning! Recently I have been writing articles for an online Magazine called Flurt  a magazine who seeks to “empower young women.” A Red Review is the first article I wrote for them. The second, was an article called Good Times Punch. So please enjoy on the links provided, I hope to have many more articles to share with you as the months go on and hopefully some new blog posts as well:

Taylor Swift: A Red Review

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/11/taylor-swift-a-red-review/

Good Times Punch

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/11/good-times-punch/

 

 

 

 

Taylor Swift: A RedReview and Good Times Punch


English: Taylor Swift at the 2010 Time 100.
English: Taylor Swift at the 2010 Time 100. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Good Morning! Recently I have been writing articles for an online Magazine called Flurt  a magazine who seeks to “empower young women.” A Red Review is the first article I wrote for them. The second, was an article called Good Times Punch. So please enjoy on the links provided, I hope to have many more articles to share with you as the months go on and hopefully some new blog posts as well:

Taylor Swift: A Red Review

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/11/taylor-swift-a-red-review/

Good Times Punch

http://www.flurtsite.com/2012/11/good-times-punch/