“Oh um, nothing too big. I think I will have the calamari starter.”
“Oh gross, seafood. Especially calamari, it’s so rubbery.” I told Az.
“Mmm, I love it. What are you having?”
“I think I’ll have the usual.” I said and Az rolls his eyes but smiles.
“This is my first Valentine’s date you know. I’ve never been out with a guy on Valentine’s before.”
“Oh is it?” Az says smiling.
“No. I haven’t. Here try a bit of my drink it’s yummy.” Az sips the drink and I panic instantly.
I wasn’t thinking. Az is drinking my alcoholic drink and he’s a Muslim who doesn’t drink alcohol. I hope he’s not mad. One sip of Sangria won’t hurt him right?
“This tastes like alcohol,” Az says and he’s angry.
“I’m sorry I forgot. The sangria is delicious here. I’m in the habit of sharing a drink with a friend or family member if it tastes good. I didn’t mean to make you drink it.”
“You know I don’t drink.” Az replies.
“I’m sorry.” I tell him meaning it. But he doesn’t accept my apology.
He spends the next fifteen minutes brooding and giving me angry scowls. I didn’t think one sip of alcohol was that big of a deal religiously.
But for the next half-hour, Az is curt and rude. He says he’s not feeling well when I ask him what’s wrong. Az says he has a killer headache and wants to go home. He’s lying.
The waitress arrives arrives to apologize for our food being late. Az looks at me and I sigh and ask the waitress, “Can we please have our food to go. My boyfriend isn’t feeling well.”
“Yeah sure,” the waitress says. Five minutes later, I have our food packed up in a bag and we are heading back to my house. Az is driving as fast as he can.I don’t understand how he is so upset over one tiny sip.
“Are you okay?” I ask him.
“Do you think I’m okay? You gave me alcohol. I’m not allowed to drink alcohol.” Az says angrily.
“I didn’t mean it and I apologized. Your cousin gave you a sip or two of alcohol before and you didn’t get mad him like you are at me.” I said.
Az speeds up his car, racing me back to my house and barely stopping to let me out.
He grabs the bag of food thrusting it at me. “Here take all the food.”
“I don’t want the calamari,” I said. “It smells bad and no one in my house who is home, will eat it.”
Before Az can speak I take it out and put the calamari on the back seat of his car.
“Goodbye,” I say blandly, without looking at him as I slam his car door.
Inside, I’m fuming . To me a sip of liquor is such a tiny thing to become mad over and I never tried to make him drink the Sangria on purpose. I wasn’t thinking and I said sorry many times.
Az shouldn’t have ruined our entire Valentine’s Day because of his temper.
Sometimes I find that I find I am in a precarious position in life. That I do something or want to do something that is having a bad effect on me. I call these problems ‘weights’ we put on ourselves. Or another good term might be creating your own burdens to carry.
It took me weeks struggling with this problem, tempted one way and tempted another. Then finally, tempted, teased, and treated like I wasn’t even a person I realized that this thing I wanted was very bad for me. Isn’t that the way it goes we always want what what we shouldn’t. Or we ignore the little signs along the pathway telling us this is not the way to get what we want. That there are other and better methods and right now isn’t the right time or person. But this morning I finally made the right choice and it felt like a weight literally had been lifted off my shoulders. Sure, it was exciting being kind of bad but what I wanted would have hurt me and other people in my life. What I wanted could’ve scarred me for the remainder of my life or left me with a regrettable experience.
Other people don’t always know better. And they aren’t always who they appear to be. But I still can’t help feeling sorry for this person and praying for something better for them because they are walking around in darkness and they don’t even know it. They would tell me about all the bad people in the world but I didn’t know they were talking about themselves. In some ways I think they were talking more about how they view themselves because I caught glimpses of a helpful and non judgemental person beneath the meanness. And I’m pretty sure a slip of the tongue ( there tongue) made me see how mean this person could be, a slip that was a weakness they didn’t want exposed. So you separate yourself from impossible people even though they aren’t all bad.
You refocus your efforts on other people and other things that are a better fit for you and a better way to spend your time. Still I liked the good things about this person a lot, it’s too bad they weren’t a little nicer and looking for friends. It’s hard to meet people and make new friends these days.
Tonight I’m going on my pre Valentine’s dinner with A. We thought Valentine’s Day would be quite busy so we are going ahead of time. Hope your sweet hearts spoil you wherever and whomever they maybe.
Good Afternoon everyone. I have promised for a while a review on LUSH’s Marilyn Hair Mask and Prince Charming Shower Gel, so here it is:
Marilyn Hair Mask – This hair mask provides “soft, brightness, and shine” for blond locks. It makes blond hair blonder. I have hair that goes past my shoulders and I was able to get about 4 or 5 masks out of the container. You apply the mask all over dry hair and let it sit for about 20 minutes then rinse off in the shower and follow with shampoo and conditioner. I did not mind this mask. I think it is a good way to keep that really bold shiny blondness in your hair but if you are just looking for a mask that is nutritious and moisturizing for blond hair this is not the mask. I actually found that at this time of year in the dead of winter, Marilyn made my hair dry and it took my hair a couple of days to recover from the mask. Everyone may not find that this occurs with the Marilyn mask but I decided that it is not really the mask for me. Not only did it make my hair blonder but it made my low lights fade, which was not my intention. So maybe, I think, this is a better mask for the middle of summer when your skin and hair is not dry and you are, if you’re a blond, going for that bombshell Marilyn blond.
Prince Charming Shower Gel – This shower gel is a “sweet, fruity blend of
pomegranate juice, marshmallow, and vanilla pod infusion.” I loved this shower gel. It is thick and foaming so you do not use up a large amount of shower gel in 1 use. And the most important aspect of it is that it smells divine, so fruity and a bit cinnamony. Thank goodness I didn’t smell the marshmallow as I hate that smell. I bought a large 500 ml bottle of this limited edition Valentine’s Day shower gel and it was so worth it. Unfortunately, if you didn’t happen to grab it in store or order online you will have to wait for next year to try it but keep it mind or write it down because it cleans well and smells awesome and is a definite must have for next Valentine’s Day for you and your special someone!