There are times when life can be so suddenly simple. That no matter the journey ahead you feel especially confident of yourself, of what you can handle and face. I have been polling people on the Internet and in real life asking them if they knew or when they knew there spouse was right for them.
I have had a great variety of answers from I knew right a way to I found out this person wasn’t right for me. And I guess the truth is we never know 100 percent forsure. What I found more are little moments in time when people realized something about another person that made them akin to them. My Godfather always told me he knew his wife was right for him the first time he talked to her on the phone. He hadn’t met her yet, but he called his mother and told her he had met the woman he was going to marry.
As for myself, I’m still quite far away from marriage but A and I have this general plan. This plan has terrified and made me panic since the moment it became real and it’s 2 years away or more. A has been sure the moment he loved me that I am the girl for him. It is why through 5 break ups of about a week each we keep getting back together. And I complain to my girlfriends that A is doing this again. But I have learnt it is much better to keep a relationship between you and your beloved and that your friends are of course going to take your side. But they haven’t heard the other side of the story which is usually his. Him being dumb or just clueless. Or him keeping his mouth shut when you are dumb or clueless.
But slowly this whole freaking out about committing my life to someone has eased. A great calm has descended and I feel that I can face what challenges I face ahead. I can face it because I’m with the right person to face it with me and even when times are tough we find our way back. And we have what it takes to make it in life.
Tonight we saw Insurgent at the movies tonight. I love the Divergent series and this one was great. Like most movies based off the book the script writers took a great amount of liberties from the book but it was still an extremely entertaining movie. Plus, it has Theo James in there playing Four. Yummy! But I digress. My boyfriend went to the movie I wanted, paid for popcorn, and helped me balance everything with what he calls my giant ten pound purse. Then when the movie was out and I couldn’t do up my coat zipper he patiently zipped it up for me. So, if caring for your girlfriend is like caring for a toddler he passed with flying colors, with much appreciation from the toddler. And I felt just really happy and grateful to be with A.
Plus, I had made him a photo book on mix book (Google it) right on the web and he loved it even though I screwed the end pages up and put nothing in and did not change the template on the back. I love mix book btw it is the greatest. A little tricky but it gives you the best place to play around with lettering and templates and pictures for your book. Just remember triple check what you print.
I’ll tell you what . . . it’s been an eventful weekend and I have a great deal to share with you, some things that are just my favourites this past while and somethings that I’ve taken part in so I hope you’ll find it interesting.
I’ll tell you what . . . after watching the movie Divergent with Shailane Woodley and Theo James (my new celeb crush) I was so excited to read the book series. The book series includes the titles: Divergent, Insurgent, and Allegiant by Veronica Roth.I absolutely loved the books but I received a huge shock in the 3rd book. I understand why the author killed off this particular character but it affected me so much I was crying and it takes a lot to make me cry over a book.
At first I was sad for the character because she died and was so young. Then I was sad for her boyfriend who couldn’t scatter his girlfriend’s ashes until 2.5 years later because he still wasn’t over her. Needless to say I am hoping that they changed the movie version as they already changed things in the first movie Divergent from the book.
I am trying to figure out why I am still thinking about this last book and why that particular characters death grieved me so much. On one hand, it was the Roth’s fantastic writing that got me so involved with the book that I never saw the death coming. On the other hand, it is my intense empathy for the character and her boyfriend, who was left after all he and his girlfriend went through together — a war — for lack of a better word, and the fact you could almost taste that happy ending for them in the near future.
But then instead of giving us a happy ending such as the endings that occur in romance books, the author gives us a taste of real life and the injustices in the series of books that are reflective of life. The one female character dies because of this, in real life there are many broken love stories because people die in real life. Their plans become void and their partner is left to carry on full of hurt and to wonder what happened to their fairy tale ending after all the things they went through to get to that point with their loved one.
More then that, it’s that life is never a fairy tale and if we receive some happiness we just have to be grateful for the time we have that happiness, until life brings us back to it’s harsh reality. I can’t say why this fictitious death bothers me other than that, maybe in a way, I related to both the boyfriend and the girlfriend character too much. Maybe like I said, it was the fact that some of the book, even though it was science fiction and futuristic, was too close to some of the events that occur in our society — prejudice, injustice, and humanities inability to manage peace as a long-term solution according to what is right and wrong.
I’ll tell you what . . . this was my last weekend with my boyfriend for 3 weeks. He is finally healthy enough to go back to work. He left early this morning and I enjoyed our last weekend together. The next time I see him it will be his Birthday and I will be able to spoil him. It boggles my mind that in his culture/religion they never celebrated birthdays. But I think he enjoys getting presents and having a day just about him.
We spent the weekend going out for supper on Friday night. He was not aware that Julio’s on Whyte Ave had real food. So he ordered a quasadilla just as I did, and he took home half of it as well as my left overs for later. He enjoyed it except for the noise in Julio’s which is famous for its Bulldogs which are full of lime juice with an energy drink, about 3 shots of tequila, and a Corona beer that you pour into it as you drink it. Julio’s also has excellent margaritas. It has more of a bar like atmosphere then a restaurant or a mexican pub. Anyways, I had a craving for the quasadilla and A was nice enough to go there with me.
We wanted to go out more that night but there were no movies I felt we would both like and the mall was closed and it was too early to go to the bar. I think A wanted to go out later but at 12:00 pm midnight he decided he needed to take a nap and I laughed when it was almost 1:00 pm because neither of us was ready and we would have had maybe 1 hour at the bar too enjoy had we gone out.
Interestingly enough, we were somehow watching this fishing show where the guys were fishing in the ocean for giant blue fish tuna. These things are as long as a tall grown man and fat, exceptionally fat. They sold one at $15/lb and made over $4000 on it. I couldn’t believe it! And I hate fish and eating it but I was impressed that such huge tuna exist.
The next day A and I slept late and later went to West Edmonton Mall, our huge mall in Edmonton, and he bought an Armani Exchange T-shirt. But when I tried to buy something he tried very hard to convince me not to. ” It’s alright” I said ” I don’t shop that often” and he goes “yeah right.”
As a man he is not very aware of how much women like and need to take care of themselves. I have tried a little to explain this but he has step-sister who is much younger and didn’t live with her so he has no frame of reference. Finally, I decided to go back to buy this tunic on at Anthropologie and getting A to go back there was a challenge.
He says, ” What if we come back here in 3 weeks when I am back?” and I’m like ” No, I want this shirt it won’t be there in a month.” “Where will you wear it he asks, around home?” and I say, ” Yes, around home, out, and around you,.” Then A goes ” You don’t have to dress up for me I don’t care what you wear” and I shake my head. Just like a man to think you are only dressing for him when really as a women you dress for yourself and other women more. Anyways, I will make sure I don’t do my Birthday shopping in July around him, I won’t get anything purchased if I do. Instead I will be wracked with guilt.
But it was still a good weekend.
I’ll tell you what . . . NARS has this great highlighter/blush/bronzer out for $55.00 at Sephora. It’s a good investment if you like NARS makeup. I love it, it stays on well and the special edition treats always last a long time. The highlighter/blush/bronzer also comes with a travel brush in this set. I haven’t bought it but maybe next month.
I’ll tell you what . . . everybody needs a good makeup video for going out especially this spring with prom and graduation. There is this great one I tried out by pixiewoo using Naked Eye Shadow 2 palette by Urban Decay.Take a look:
I’ll tell you what . . . this is the best song for any girl. It’s been out for a while and everybody has heard it but I thought I might close my blog with Girl On Fire by Alicia Keys. It’s great for any women when someone is trying to tell you what to do. Cheers!