Photo Challenge: Nonfiction – Waffles and Spaghetti: Men and Their Boxes #nonfiction #relationship 

Thank you to MindLoveMisery’s Menagerie for hosting this week’s photo challenge prompt. 


Rob. Woodcox


A popular dating guide I read years ago was called Men are Like Waffles –Woman Like Spaghetti By Bill and Pam Farrel.  Oddly enough this dating guide was first published in 1959 and then republished in 2001. Sometimes the guide is downright old fashioned and other times it gives some extremely wise advise. 

One part which always stuck out for me was the title of the book and why exactly men are like waffles and women like spaghetti. The above image from reminds me of these analogies. 

Just as waffles have all those small squares in them or boxes so do men in how they organize their life. Each area of their life is a box and never shall two boxes meet. A man’s work or his job is one box and his kids maybe another box. His wife and his relationship with her is another box and so is his fixation on fixing old cars or spending time chilling out watching Netflix or the hockey game on TV.

Woman on the other hand, are like spaghetti because everything in their lives is mixed with everything else going on in their lives. Each thing is connected and affects other things. For instance, if a woman is stressed out at work and her boss is riding her tail to finish a project, this might make the woman angry and moody at home because she has to hold it all in at work. Her kids know something is up and stay away from Mom and she feels rejected. 

Suddenly, she needs to clean everything in the house and is making the kids clean up too. Cleaning in this instance, makes her feel better because she is in control and able to accomplish something. At work she feels she cannot accomplish what she needs at the moment. Then Mom is upset at her kids because they are not doing a thorough cleaning job. At home, Mom’s the boss. 

Her husband comes into the great room to see what’s up with all the noise and cleaning on a late week night. He and his wife start talking and she’s mad at him and picking fights over him leaving his laundry on the floor and not texting her back at work today. 

She tells her husband she doesn’t have time to clean up after him, she’s really busy at work and no she can’t come to his work event. She can’t possibly make idol conversation with that weird woman her husband works with and seems to always want to talk to her right now, it would push her over the edge. Disatisfaction at work is effecting her whole life. 

A smart husband would realize something is up and talk his dear wife through things until he hits on the real issue. Or better yet, let his wife talk until she gets down to the real issue. After voicing her feelings, his wife will be happier and more relaxed.

On the other hand, her husband doesn’t understand completely why his wife needs to talk things out and why everything in her life effects everything else. 

His life is in boxes (apparently naked high up in trees) so when the work box gets to stressful, he goes to the box where he can tinker with the car he’s rebuilding. Work doesn’t effect him here, in fact, this box may help the husband think things through or gain perspective on issues he could be having at work or say the fight he had with his wife.

So all you men in your boxes, let your ladies talk it out and if they won’t, encourage them to talk when they’re ready. I know you don’t get this whole talking just because you need to thing, but actually you’re helping your woman find the root of a problem to deal with it. And that makes you a problem solver with a happier life and wife. 

Ladies, let your guy tinker, watch sports, or whatever when he’s stressed. He’s not as vocal as you and he’s thinking things through or giving himself a break from stress. He’s in his box and it’s giving him reprieve from his problem because he’s not in that work box or in another stressful box. When he’s ready he’ll say something, what he’s decided or after a while if he’s not a talker, you can encourage him to talk or outright ask him what’s up. Better not to to be too subtle

So that is the most memorable and important thing I learned from this book. Do you think it’s true in your own life? In anyone’s life? Or is it an outdated model from an old dating guide? 


©Mandibelle16. (2016) All Rights Reserved

13 thoughts on “Photo Challenge: Nonfiction – Waffles and Spaghetti: Men and Their Boxes #nonfiction #relationship 

  1. rosemawrites September 15, 2016 / 5:14 am

    I have to agree, Mandi! 🙂 I can relate because this is me and my boyfriend especially when we’re stressed.

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    • mandibelle16 September 15, 2016 / 4:56 pm

      Thanks Rosema. Glad you found the advice relevant. I always have. It helps men and women understand each other better I hope.

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      • rosemawrites September 16, 2016 / 12:33 am

        I would agree. Thank you, Mandi. and you’re welcome! ❤

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  2. Copper Cranes September 15, 2016 / 1:14 pm

    Mandi, terrific post, and very accurate. Men and women truly are so different. Wishing you a wonderful Thursday, take good care. ~ Mia

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    • mandibelle16 September 15, 2016 / 4:33 pm

      Thanks Mia. Happy you liked and found it accurate. The picture just very much reminded me of this book. Have a lovely week (what’s left).

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      • Copper Cranes September 15, 2016 / 8:04 pm

        You’re welcome Mandi, and thank you. Have what’s left of a lovely week too! 🙂

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  3. Priceless Joy September 15, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Mandi, I could swear you are a married woman that has been married for years! LOL! Great analogies and very wise advice!

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  4. clcouch123 September 15, 2016 / 9:15 pm

    Must be why I prefer French toast. Actually, the boxes are helpful. I imagine many men construct life this way. I’ve simply not been that good with structure. I like the spaghetti reference. Makes everything intertwined. Maybe I’ve constructed my life with boxes of spaghetti. Maybe I’m simply ornery. Since ’59, you say? This is a look that holds up pretty well. Helpful sharing, Mandi!

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    • mandibelle16 September 15, 2016 / 9:49 pm

      Thank you Christopher. I do think that men are like this but there are exceptions and perhaps, there are certain areas where men can’t stay in a box. Yes the book was first released in 1959. So its stood up well. Yes french toast is much better than waffles 🙂

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  5. Andy September 16, 2016 / 11:03 pm

    I have shit loads of boxes. I compartmentalise really well, which pisses off my girlfriend no end.

    “How can you sleep so easily when we’ve just had a disagreement?”

    “Err, because I’m in my sleeping box!”

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    • mandibelle16 September 17, 2016 / 12:36 am

      Haha. I’m glad you agree Andy. And I’m jealous as a guy you can do this ‘compartmentalizing’ so well. Thanks for commenting.


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