Just To Make a Few Things Clear with Feminism

First International Symposium on Chinese Women...
First International Symposium on Chinese Women and Their Network Capital (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

On http://www.dictionary.comfeminism” is defined as ” the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to men.” Given this definition I am in complete agreement. Women should and do have the right to vote democratically for a leader, to hold public office (we do have a female Premier, Alison Redford), to work and go to school for whatever subject or vocational area they want, to have kids if they want; to be a person unto themselves with all rights and privileges equal to any man. To further this definition I look to Wikipedia who describes “feminist theory” as that:

which emerged from these feminist movements, aims to understand the nature of gender inequality by examining women’s social roles and lived experience; it has developed theories in a variety of disciplines in order to respond to issues such as the social construction of sex and gender.

But if I am really truthful with you there are some things we often hear associated with feminism and the like, that I do not agree with, or do not agree with completely; and there are things I like about my femininity (” a set of attributes. behaviors, and roles generally associated with girls and women such as “gentleness, empathy, and sensitivity” ( Wikipedia)). Many women would argue that “biologically” we are pretty equal to men but I just do not believe we are created that way. I am thinking of perhaps,why women can multitask and most men can only concentrate on one thing at a time.  Or why men compartmentalize things and women think of problems and life in general as everything being connected to something else; or that most women are not fire fighters or wrestler’s because it takes a woman of special strong, big-boned, and athletic build to be one. I mean, most women do not have the upper body strength that men do, it’s just that we are physically different. Some woman can do this, but most cannot.

I think woman have the right to try to be equal and do whatever a man can do, but why do we want to give up our femininity to do so? I like shopping, and playing with makeup, I am a girly girl. I like pink and I like snuggling up next to my boyfriend. I do not want to be as insensitive to others, as some men are; or not wear makeup like most men do not. And I think that woman have a unique view on the world, just as unique as men – but we need both viewpoints to balance each other out. And I do not want to be one of those crazy women who swears off men because she thinks men are all are in the way of  a woman’s potential.  Maybe these are extreme versions, but I like it when men act like men on dates. When they pay for the bill, pull out my chair, and pick me up. I like that my boyfriend gives me a little ‘swat’ on the ass, even though it maybe a guy thing to do, but he is just teasing!

Lets have our “feminism” but not at the expense of  making woman ashamed to stay at home with kids, or not be a CEO – just a secretary; we can do things that men do but do them our way. We do not have to act like men to be equal to them, we should be ourselves whoever we are and value that although we may want all the rights and freedoms men have (and should have) it is still okay to be just a girl – liking girly things, and not being able to throw like a boy. I am okay being a little traditional, but sometimes I feel feminism is not? So are you a feminist or are you like me, just happy to be your  girly-girl self in the world?


2 thoughts on “Just To Make a Few Things Clear with Feminism”

  1. I’m not sure what kind of feminism you’re talking about where women are supposed to “act like men” as you described. I’ve never come across a feminist who “makes women ashamed” to raise children, nor have I read any feminist theory or activism which advocates that.

    I’m also not sure about the femininity you’re talking about – my understanding is that femininity tends to be defined differently according to one’s culture. All of the activities you mentioned are somewhat normal in White bourgeois Western culture (allowing men to smack you without solicitation, help you sit down when on a “date”, etc.) but outside of that culture they necessarily don’t mean anything. For example, in reference to your comments on makeup, there is a tribe in Africa where “men” are accustomed to sitting around decorating their faces while “women” predominantly do not adorn themselves at all.

    I’m not really sure what you’ve read or heard about feminism. The feminism I’m aware of tries to ensure women’s access to education, prevent sexual abuse, correct the pay gap, and provide a space for women to grow and be respected as human beings, among other lofty goals. That’s a feminism I can definitely get behind!

    I invite you to please check out my new WordPress; I already have several followers. I post a lot of material about women’s rights and feminism, along with many other relevant themes and topics that you might enjoy. Maybe you might see something you like.

    Thanks for your post and I wish you the best.


  2. To the girl who commented: I do not know how it is to be a women in non- westernized countries around the world. But sometimes I feel here in Canada or the USA there is feminism that not only does all those things you talked about that are good, but would in fact push women to be better then men , almost replace them in away. A pressure to compete in the same sports just b/c the men do to go out and go back to your job not stay at home and be a traditional mom. Those are only a couple examples I’m just saying I want to be able to have equality but as a girl in things that I do, not like some women trying to be like the men b/c she is trying to show she is just as strong or capable as them. We shouldn’t have to- we should just be girls and women be feminem like ourselves with out that pressure.


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