The Doctors Office

I am sitting here in the newly renovated waiting room of my doctors office and cringing. For some reason waiting rooms make me very uncomfortable and I try to maintain my distance between me and the other patients carefully. It’s not that I have anything against them, it’s just that this whole place makes me tense up. The doctors office carries the fear of sickness and unusual behavior of certain people. Often, it is dirty carrying the dust off the street not to mention the stench of unwashed people. Now, there are some good and some bad things about the newly renovated waiting room. For instance, the waiting rooms cold dingy white floors have been replaced by pleasant modern wood floors; yet the walls painted a modern tan are strikingly bare. The chairs are new and comfortable, they no longer sink when you sit in them and are arranged in a new more functional way. Everything looks modern and warm, yet somehow to me it feels like a waiting room still – cold and smelling too clean now.

But it is the people in this waiting room that disturb me most – clean or dirty. Some of them are very sick, unwell inside their heads; they wail and moan, rock back and forth, talk in loud deformed voices, socially they cannot handle themselves. Some pathways in their brains just do not run the way a healthy person’s brain does, or at least not at the moment. But I am ashamed to feel this way, these very ill people cannot help that they are how they are; they require compassion. They just want to be treated normal yet that is a really hard thing for people to do for them. I was a little like them once.

Some of the other people I would consider normal I guess. They are relatives of the patients or people who are able to handle themselves in public – who care for their appearance, are quiet and polite, who wear fashionable clothes, put on makeup, bathe often, just have that well cared for look. I consider myself one of these people now. But thinking about all this, my uncomfortableness in this room, it makes me think what a hard life it is for some people – to have a mental disability. One that sets you so apart from other people by your behavior, actions, appearance, and sometimes intelligence. I only know what it is like for me and my small disability. But for some people who have to live penny to penny on AICH, who cannot communicate properly or effectively, who are often alone in their struggles. It must be a very hard life. Another thing to consider a lot mental illness are not cut and dried, and often not curable. Each bipolar person experiences the illness in his or her own unique way with unique symptoms, some similar to others, but still unique. And Lithium does not suddenly cure you, that’s not how it works. So I am sorry I hate the waiting room at my doctors office, but that will not change. I have compassion but I cannot help how I feel. I am relieved when my doctor takes me to the calm of her office, even more when I can leave this awful place. At least they tried to make it nicer, renovating it, but to me, it did not help.


Saturday Mornings With Mom – A Late Mother’s Day Post

English: Mom Sangwal Mahidol na Ayudhya with h...
English: Mom Sangwal Mahidol na Ayudhya with her only daughter, Mom Chao Galyani Vadhana (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A typical Saturday morning for me begins around 7:30 am. My mom and I, get up early, hurriedly get ourselves ready, and pack a bag full of things for my Baba who lives at a nursing home of sorts. We buy her apple sauce in different flavors, a certain kind of cookies she loves, some toilet paper, kleenex, and occasionally hygienic items or clothing items. My Baba likes everything to be the same and often complains that she has “too much stuff” when we bring her items, especially the clothing or hygienic items. So far she has not complained about the cookies 🙂

We drive to my Baba’s “home” in the West End stopping first at the Mayfield Common Second Cup for a couple of skinny hot chocolates and sometimes some breakfast, such as a muffin or a sausage roll. Sometimes we stop at the Save’On’Foods to pick up Baba a news paper to read and some of the items I mentioned earlier. After, 2nd Cup we visit Baba anywhere for an hour to two hours. My mom curls my Baba’s hair; Baba has nice hair for an 87-year-old – it’s still half brown. I sit and watch TV and my mom puts items away in my Baba’s room where Baba can keep track of those items. Sometimes mom has to hide a few things because Baba will not let her keep that many items there so something goes in the medicine cabinet or in the back of Baba’s closet. Later, we bring her coffee and a snack.

Baba’s memory is not good and she does not have much to talk about so she constantly asks what time her pills are at and what time lunch is at. We try to convince her to go on a walk to the kitchen or outside, but she never wants to go.

What is the point of me telling you this? The point, is that even though elderly people can be well, the way they often are, you still need to take care of them. To visit them as often as you can, bring them treats, and help them not to be so lonely. Most of the time it’s my Baba sitting in her room watching TV, napping, going to meals, phoning, and having the occasional visitors like my Aunt Betty. Taking care of my Baba is what my Mom and Aunt do for my Baba every week because they love my Baba and she is their mother. This is the kind of thing you do for your mother’s, even though sometimes it is not the easiest or most pleasant job; even though you might rather be out doing other things on certain days of the week, especially Saturday.

After, my mom and I visit my Baba we go for lunch or to do some kind of shopping. We go up to West Edmonton Mall, to home decor shopping at Mayfield Common, to my Mom’s quilting store, to the farmer’s market down town, or to some other different event. This is how I spend my time with my mom on Saturday, doing something hopefully, we both enjoy. Doing something, cause it’s nice to get out, especially in the Spring and Summer and to walk around and eat/shop and browse and spend time with each other. I do not know how my mom will be when she is 87, but I know I will take care of her too when she is like my Baba. I will spend time with her, and teach my kids to spend time with their elderly grandparents as well. Family is important and nobody should be forgotten. And as we each grow older, we teach the next generation the importance of family – no matter who they are and what they are like, that we are always there for each other, and that we need to take care of each other. That is the point of family, having people to depend on.

So I hope that even though it’s not Mother’s Day anymore, you are still all taking care of your mother’s, cause they took care of you, and they are your family. I hope you take care of her no matter what age she is. And I hope you take care of the rest of your family too.

How do you spend time with your mother, on Mother’s Day or otherwise? Do you spend time with your Grandmother‘s as well? Do you think it’s time well spent?

Shopaholic – 5 Places I have Shopped Online this Spring/Summer and maybe Should Not Have

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Recently, I have been a bit of a well err, shopaholic. I am not sure why this is, there is just something about spring and summer fashion, the flexibility of what you can wear that makes me want to shop.Flexibility because of the nice weather. Not to mention that you can still get some great deals from early spring sales that will be perfect for fall weather. Another factor for me seems to be the frustration of not receiving the packages I have ordered in a timely manner. I have ordered a few things off of and and have yet to receive anything; in turn, this makes me want to order more for some reason from other sites that will send my purchases on time. My last purchase has been off of , a pair of jeans (straight and longer so I can wear some new heels with them and a cardigan in bright blue) and that was today. But I have decided this has to stop. There will always be sales, and 20 %, 30 %, even 40 % off. There will be things I absolutely love that I cannot buy because you cannot spend all your money on shoes, clothing, jewelry, and makeup. Not to mention I am going to Las Vegas in a month which means, yes, more shopping. So my goals are 1) Do not shop anymore until Las Vegas 2) In Las Vegas I can only spend $300.00 at the very most shopping. Goal number 1) will be difficult given my boredom lately and love of online shopping, there is just such variety out there, and if you know how it is going to fit already…. And number 2) I think $300.00 (and it’s what I saved up for Vegas shopping) should be more than a sufficient amount to spend for 5 days – although I have found that once you start shopping in Vegas and find all those unique Vegas deals and items it can be hard to stop. But realistically, I will probably find one dress I like and a couple t-shirts. Usually I find it is better to shop at home ( in Edmonton we have first class shopping at West Edmonton Mall, online, and several of are smaller malls) so I do not regret my rash of shopping this past couple months. But I do strive to maintain some more self control when it comes to shopping the rest of this summer. After Las Vegas, I am good until September, that will give me a chance to replenish my savings too.

All this being said, I wanted to share with you some of the items I have purchased over the past couple months.Here they are as follows, and please do not judge:

1. Eberjey – Giovanna Fashion Collection/India Collection – This is not exactly what I bought. I got a Cami in the same color and some shorts to wear to bed, as well as some lingerie that looked just like this but in black.

Giovanna Bralet

2. Modcloth – I have gone a little modcloth crazy and have bought a pair of heels, a bathing suit for my trip, a dress, and a summer top. The shoes match the dress which has some ivory knit lace on the back and the bathing suit does have matching bottoms.

image of Privilege to Look Lovely Heel in Ivory

image of Litho to the Music Swimsuit Top

image of Where the Breeze Begins Dress

3.Banana Republic Canada – After taking back one BR dress, I settled on another. It is great, can be strapless and has sticky plastic tape inside the bra so the top stays up; at 25% off.

4. Etsy Jewelry – I got a lovely blue peacock colored stone necklace, a pearl bracelet, and a matching pearl necklace to that bracelet.

5. Gap Canada – A pair of Real Straight Jeans and Dolmen Sleeve pocket sweater; both at 20% off.

So here ends my shopping frenzy. I am strictly on a diet of budget only spending for the summer (with the exception of Vegas) so wish me luck! And maybe, you will like a few items I found to compliment my spring/summer wardrobe and wisely spend a few dollars on one or two. Do not go all out crazy like me. Enjoy!

The Details are Important If You Can Complete Your Goals.

A sample floor plan for a double-family home
A sample floor plan for a double-family home (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

These past few weeks I have worked on an assignment for my Space Planning class in the Residential Interior’s program I have been taking. The specifics of the assignment are that each student is to interview another student and find out what that student’s “dream” kitchen would be and design that kitchen. Then, we have to draw up a floor plan of the dream kitchen, draw up an Elevation of one interesting wall in that kitchen, and lastly, we are to write up an explanation on how the kitchen we have designed meets the criteria laid out to us by both our student partner whose kitchen we are designing, and the instructions given to us by the teacher of the course.

I have enjoyed this assignment but struggle to make my work more professional and seem less, like the work of a student. The other thing I struggle with is including all those details that one is supposed to include when designing a kitchen. Details such as how much space one must leave between a fridge and an island or what distance the triangle of sink to fridge to stove should be in the ideal kitchen (26″ with no more than 9″ on each side of the triangle but not every side). Finding that exact layout that meets our student partner’s wish list (the client) and the rules for what things should be included in a plan or elevation is aggravating but completely necessary.

This being said, I perhaps must take back one of earlier posts that suggested we look at the ‘big picture’ of life, rather than the small details. Well, I do not take it back, but what I do confess is that sometimes details are very important. If you are off an inch or half an inch when you are measuring out cupboards in your kitchen, and then you go to try and fit your stove into the space left between those cupboards, you will find the aspect of measurement is extremely vital when designing a kitchen. You must measure out all your appliances width x height x depth, and you must measure out the furniture for your eating area whether that be a banquette, a bar at the island, or a table and chairs. You must leave enough counter space around your stove so someone does not get burned or something does not catch on fire. You have to keep in mind standard measurements such as 36″ for lower cupboards and 30″ for upper cupboards. There are so many little aspects that are important. And sometimes, such is life.

All of these little aspects are each vital in their own way, and important to forming a bigger picture, your dream kitchen. And if you do not get those little details right, that is a something you may find annoying and time consuming, and that can put things out-of-place. So I remain convinced that we should focus on the big picture, but not at the cost of detail, for detail sets designers and individuals apart. Paying attention to the details highlights a lot of people in their respective careers; but to a point. If you pay attention to the details so much that you cannot form that grand idea, cannot complete your goal, those details become meaningless. But if you can pay attention to the important aspects just enough that everything comes together perfectly, then my friend, you are set. So I take my original blog on “Seeing the Big Picture” and clarify it; be detailed, but do not not achieve your goals in your quest for perfection.

Massage Day – Universal Contour Wrap

Massage in Frankfurt, Germany

Mmmmm…. massage day, one of my favorite days. I have a spa on Jasper Ave I go to called the Beauty Lounge they are a fabulous, reputable, and a relaxing place to get a massage at. Not to mention, they have had some great deals on Living Social and Groupon where a girl on a budget can get a massage for an unbelievable price. The atmosphere is decadent, black and white decor, with lounge chairs, mirrors, black beaded chandeliers, and black and white vases. The vibe is a little different than other spas, less muted and more funky. I like it there. The massage was great as usual, although I always do forget that therapeutic massages hurt a bit; but you feel so much better as the masseuse works out the knots in your body. So I completely recommend The Beauty Lounge for a great 1 hour massage.

Moreover, I happened to notice an eye-catching brochure on one of their glass side tables as I was waiting for my appointment to begin. The brochure was for something called the Universal Contour Wrap. You can visit these websites: and if you want more information. But basically, this special wrap of clay, minerals, and bandages, guarantees you at least a 6 inch loss in body inches in just 2 hours; however, some women’s testimonial’s on the back of the brochure’s said they lost as much as 11 to 18.5 inches. The universal contour wrap website recommends you go for 3 treatments for best results but you can go for just one if you want. Additionally, they guarantee that this 6 inch loss in body size will last for 30 days or you get a free body wrap. So this is not a permanent solution, but if you are looking to decrease your dress size by a size or two for your wedding, or vacation, or some special occasion it seemed like a worthwhile option. The only thing to consider is the price, the website said it cost about $200 for one body wrap and up to $600 for a set of three. I do not know how much this would cost at The Beauty Lounge as their website did not quote an actual price. But I would totally consider getting this procedure if I was getting married or going on a big trip somewhere. Although, exercise I think is still your best option if you can manage the work. I am not sure exactly what all these clay and minerals do to your body other than “detoxify” it so if there are an implicit dangers in this procedure I have no idea. Maybe getting the Universal Contour Wrap would be a good option in conjunction with exercise, to smooth everything out, or lose that last stubborn bit of fat. What do you think? Would you ever considering getting a beauty procedure such as this at this price? Do you think it’s safe? Please comment below or on Facebook.